IDAHOT is stirring a lot of controversy. Some events were canceled. Some will still take place. With that in mind, rather than share a story, I wanted to share some thoughts. I will speak as myself, using “I”. But I strongly believe my thoughts and opinions expressed below could easily be re-written with “we”.
To everyone who has contributed to this blog with posts, comments, shares or even just reading… there is love in my heart for you.
To everyone who identifies as different from the “norm” that society has set for them; there is love in my heart for you.
You don’t have to be out or outspoken to be proud of yourself, or to recognize that you are brave and strong.
A friend recently expressed to me that she feels ashamed because she is in the closet, and too afraid to participate in LGBT+ events. I urge all of you who feel this way simply not to. It is a complex situation, and each of us experiences it differently and has the right to. A large part of the LGBT+ community is in the closet, and those of us who can are fighting to change the need for that closet in the first place. But the feeling you should draw from that is not one of shame or inferiority; it is one of support. You aren’t alone, and I (we) understand.
To those of us who are able to stand up and fight, I (we) am (are) so proud of you. I (We) know how hard it is. I (We) know how difficult it is to stare homophobia and transphobia in the face, and to be judged and belittled. I (We) know that sometimes it feels like nothing is ever going to change, and that the fight drains you. But things are changing, and you are making a difference; at least to each and every one of us.
And to those of you who identify as straight but recognize that sexuality and gender identity have nothing to do with the human identity and have no impact on whether a person is a full and beautiful person deserving of their dignity and respect; thank you. It seems strange to thank someone for what should be regular decent behavior. But until we reach a point where support of LGBT+ people’s rights is synonymous with the support of people’s rights, your voices matter and I (we) value them immensely.
Finally, I just want to share this post from Helem’s facebook page: